October 29, 2005

It's been some time (as usual) since I've updated my site. This time it's been because I've not wanted to. Nothing to do with time, or lack there of. It's more a feeling of wasting my efforts.

I've considered the situation and have decided that distance definately is a case of 'out of sight, out of mind' with many of the people that Rob and I considered to be good friends. We've made a point of staying in touch, whether it be by e-mail, voice chat or phone calls. One thing I've discovered is that people we hardly know, have been the ones to keep in contact.

We remember birthdays, Christmas and any other occassion that's important. Very few of our friends bother with remembering us. OK, so that makes me sound like a spoilt child, but I really don't care. It's not about ME, it's Rob that I care about. He's bent over backwards to be a really good friend to many of you and you've just shrugged him off. Well, believe me, if you intended to hurt him, you've succeeded!

Fortunately he works with a nice bunch of people at the Cairns Post and so gets some interaction with others. I, on the otherhand, have very little outside contact. If I need to go into Cairns City it means an hour long bus ride and I'm limited by what I can carry on the trip home. Needless to say it's not exactly condusive to meeting friends for lunch!

I have my garden and so on to keep me busy. Rob spends his by researching games that he can play online with friends. The problem there is, that we only have one person who really wants to play and his time is limited by his young children...at least he tries!

The RPG scene in Cairns seems to be limited to those who never passed D&D and those who are into the Vampire scenario. Not places where we really want to go. D&D is fun but the rules lawyers take up more time than the actual game does. Rob's a dyed in the wool gamer...I became one through osmosis. Of course both of us prefer f2f gaming, but it's not an option here.

Recently I even became tardy in answering e-mails from a couple of you. Something I would never normally neglect. I guess the feeling of being so forgettable got to me. I remember the get togethers in Fraser Road and feeding the hungry hoards and wonder now how many came because they really enjoyed our company or for the food. I truely hope it was the former.

If I've bruised a few people by my remarks then tough. If you take it personally it's because you feel guilty and you deserve to.

I thank God for my kids, because they ring me or e-mail me, or, if they live in this area, they visit us and are only too happy to help us where they can.

What's your excuse for relegating good friends to the trash bin?


Posted by Midus at October 29, 2005 10:36 PM

It's both the food, and the company... *grins*
Your annual christmas party was one of the two thing I looked forward to during the stupidity that is Christmas. Holiday Penalty Rates is the other...

I've found that since I gots me a job and stopped being able to travel all over Sydney at the drop of a hat that my social life has suffered immensly.
I'm sick of being the one to organise get-togethers.
I'm sick of finding out about get togethers the day before, because everyone assumes that I know about them already. Yes, I work stupid hours, but if you give me enough notice, I've got over 60 hours of RDOs to burn!

I was interested in playing with you guys, there is no reason why 2000km is any sort of excuse these days... but I had to bail because of legitamate time constraints in October.

If Rob wants a non D&D game to play, I can see if I can get him an invite into the Online Amber game that I'm playing currently. Min requirements are 2-3 posts per week, with more XP given if you contribute more content (my character keeps a journal, for instance) I can personally vouch for the GM, he ran the Amber campaign that I was in for almost 3 years when I was living in Canberra... I think it would be a game that you would enjoy too.

As for keeping in touch, I've found that with many of my friends, the only way to keep tabs on what is happening in their lives is to read their LJ, and leave comments and such...
Cairns is not the end of the earth, I do plan on getting my arse up there again... but I've been saying that since Dec 1997!

Posted by: Sim at October 30, 2005 07:15 PM

Hi Lauren,
I knew you'd be one of the first to reply...the other was Leslie. Neither of you were on my 'Hit List'. I know that you don't forget your friends.
I know you've read Rob's Rant too. We both know that it was a problem for you to play in the OnLine Game and you gave Rob lots of time to find another player.

As for catching up via LJ...that's fine, if I know they have one.

You know you're always welcome at our place and we would love to have you, when you can get time off. I'll send you an e-mail shortly with a more in depth reply.


Posted by: Vickie at October 31, 2005 09:31 AM