April 05, 2007

It's April 5th.

As you can see from the small banner to the left, it's the day to Blog Against Sexual Violence.

"It's finally stopped!" was the title of my last entry...I would love to be able to use it on this one, but it's nowhere near true.

Until recent years, discussing Sexual Violence wasn't on the list of things that 'nice' girls did and boys didn't talk about it...unless it was behind their hand. What happened to bring it into the open? Personally I think it was victims deciding that enough is enough! It was also the realization that it's never the fault of the victim. Most of this was brought about by dedicated workers, who came into contact with the results of sexual violence, in their roles as councillors and social workers. It's taken a long time, but now the Federal and State Governments are behind awareness campaignes in Australia. It's time to stop the rot.

Sexual Violence has nothing to do with Sex or Love...but everything to do with Control !

Sometimes sexual violence has its roots in the perpetrators background. If it's happened in their social /familial group on a regular basis, then it's the norm and therefore acceptable behaviour - WRONG!

So much pain is caused by the perpetrators inability to channel rage. In this area, within the last week, a 14yr old boy was arrested after a sexual attack on a 67yr old woman. The attack was in her own home. She managed to escape before she was raped, but that was his intention. His victim will never feel truly safe again...not even in her own space. The thing that leapt into my mind was " Why does he hate his grandmother so much?" Of course that's probably an over simplification, but I'd bet my little cotton socks that it has something to do with his actions.

Until recently, when we thought of sexual violence, we only thought of women as victims. Then we came, unfortunately, to accept that paedophilia was more prevelant than we had could ever have imagined. Now sexual assaults on men are being revealed, as men come forward with their stories.

We need to hear the victims stories. We also need to find out what drove their attackers to take action. It's a dark area, but unless we can turn the lights on we will only be assisting the victims...not preventing the crime.

How can we teach our children to respect each other, when so many are raised by the TV and their Computers?
The electronic babysitters can't give our young physical contact and cuddles. WE are the ones responsible for reducing violence (of any type), in our communities. We are also responsible for educating people on how to avoid becoming victims. It's a tough job and we can't do it alone.

For anyone interested in finding out more, please visit this link:
http://abyss2hope.blogspot.com/2007/03/blog-against-sexual-violence-day-5.html

Vickie.

Posted by Midus at 08:21 AM | Comments (0)